When my husband died after a short illness seven years ago, I was brokenhearted. Back then, I couldn't imagine when the anguish would end. But slowly, over time, I moved forward. My husband wouldn't have wanted me to be stuck in that first stage of widowhood—grief—forever.
The following stage of widowhood—growth—is a time to take care of business. As a widow moves into this period, the fog begins to lift; her thinking becomes more normal. Thus, Stage 2 is the time to begin taking care of the major financial decisions that previously had been deferred.