As the adage goes, Money can't buy happiness.
So it's no wonder that very wealthy families, like all families, can still have very stormy relations. A neglected son blames his pampered sister. Spoiled kids resent their overbearing parents. If money isn't the root of all evil, it can often fuel a whole lot of conflict and anxiety in wealthy families.
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One of the best ways to get any family working and living well with each other is to have them do good things for others together. In the case of high-net-worth families, philanthropy is not only about getting a really nice tax deduction—and it can be really nice—but also about fostering communication between family members and engaging the next generation in matters of importance to the entire family.