It's very true that both men and women are both marrying later in life than our parents did. It's not a big deal for men or women to be single in their mid 30s anymore.
And, let's be honest about the nature of men—and Wall Street men in particular: We're always looking for something better, whether it's a stock—or a woman. We want someone who's more attractive than the last.
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Wall Street guys spend more money on cosmetics, watches, accessories because they think it makes them look more desirable. I proudly use an anti-aging SPF 15 moisturizer every morning and go to the gym three to four times a week. Half the time I even work out.
As a status symbol
"Started from the bottom, now we're here. Started from the bottom, now my whole team ... here." -- Drake
As you rise to a certain tax bracket, men are spending more on luxury goods as a sense of belonging. Even if you are not making a lot of money, men are spending money on luxury goods to feel like they are part of that elite.
It's in our nature especially on Wall Street to compare ourselves to our peers as a benchmark for social caste. When your friend shows up at at the hot Hamptons party wearing the newest Givenchy T-shirt and the gold-dipped Nike Dunks, while you show up wearing an Ed Hardy T-shirt and designer Crocs, you can't help but feel a sense of cultural inferiority.
Because you're worth it
If you are young and have PEP (potential earning power), don't be stupid and blow all your money, but enjoy your success. Buy that Rolex Daytona. Get the expensive table at Hakkasan in Vegas because Calvin Harris is playing. Rent a Ferrari for the ride out to the Hamptons. You don't have financial responsibilities like children's private-school tuition, saving for retirement—or alimony—so have fun.
The trend of men spending more on luxury is pretty apparent—and it's about time. In a truly equal society where women and men should be on an equal playing field in terms of getting jobs and getting equal pay, that should also apply to luxury spending—men should spend as much as women.
My advice to men: Enjoy those spa treatments and mani-pedis. You have earned it.
Commentary by Raj Malhotra (Raj Mahal is his stage name), a former Wall Street trader-turned-stand-up-comedian. He has worked at Wall Street including Bank of America, BNP Paribas and Nomura. He can be seen at Gotham Comedy Club, Broadway Comedy Club, NY Comedy Club, Greenwich Village Comedy Club, and the Tribeca Comedy Lounge. Follow him on Twitter