The Author of "What Men Don't Tell Women About Business," Chris Flett, was busy at work answering Big Idea emails after the show, and now we're bringing them to you here!

For more information on Chris Flett, or to learn more about Alpha Males, check out his book!

Denis from Ft. Lauderdale, FL asks:

What are the common traits of the 'Alpha' charateristic?  Can it be learnt and developed over time with knowledge and experience?

Hi Denis,

The Alpha has the following characteristics:

- Driven
- Enjoys the 'hunt' for opportunity
- Enjoys creative conflict (not what you may have seen on the show)
- Is all about business endorsement and building a network of strong, professional people
- Often uses money as a measurement of success

In the book, it talks about what to do when dealing with an Alpha, which I guess in itself is a checklist. Check out the blog posted on the "Big Idea" website and you'll see the points including: being goal driven, getting to the point in conversation, not making excuses, etc.

All the best,

Chris.
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Rebecca from Seattle, WA asks:

I need to ask for a  raise. What materials should I prepare before I go in? Should I just wait to see what they offer me?


Hi Rebecca,

Find out what the job pays, get ready to ask for 'what you want', not 'what you think you can get'. Then find a backup plan in case you aren't successful with your request. This could be looking for a different job with a company that places a greater value on your contribution.

Best,

Chris.

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Arlando from Ft. Washington, MD asks:

How can I be an alpha male without being called a jerk?

Hi Arlando,

Be direct, be clear, and let those you work with know that you have boundaries for the people you work with. For me and my colleagues, it is no excuses. You are only being a dick if you make people follow rules that you haven't explained. Don't put a square peg in a round hole. If someone isn't a fit, it is likely that you simply need to replace them. There is nothing wrong with being an Alpha. What is wrong is the 'old guard' have made it a practice to destroy people to get ahead. That model doesn't fit in business anymore.

Best,

Chris.

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Don from Groton, CT says:

Seems to me that Donny should simply stop saying "I think what Chris is saying..." and make the women stop interrupting him and let him complete a sentence maybe we could learn what Chris is saying.

Also, seems to me that Chris isn't saying this is how it SHOULD be but simply how it is...i.e. If you want get ahead in business, a woman needs to understand how an alpha male thinks, works, etc. Why are these women shouting about how good they are. Who cares? Is this what this show is about?

Hi Don,

I think that some members of the panel were amped up for a fight. Both women admitted to googling me last night to find out what they could. I had hoped that this particular discussion would open up the topic rather than have the two women perpetuate the stereotypes, but unfortunately the latter ruled. The Big Idea is a great show and continue watching it.

Best,

Chris.

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