I told my dad, "I'm a lucky guy." He said, "But are you lucky in love?" I was six years old.
Love was the most disgusting thing in the world to me. What the hell was he talking about? Love was living in another neighborhood at that time. Or another planet.
It would be years before Love stuck its ugly little nose into my house and said, "Hello, anyone here?"
Luck was all about rolling the dice. Or finding a quarter on the ground. Or seeing a double rainbow after a quick storm.
But now I'm different. I'm constantly checking in and out of the Hospital of No Luck. I'm older. I need luck to be transfused into me or I run out of it.
Without luck, I'm dead. For me, good luck equals happiness. On a scale of happiness from 0 to 10, I think I'm about a seven or eight. But that's a big improvement.
When I was lying on the floor here, I was probably about a zero. Or at different points in this story, I was maybe at negative. So I'm trending upwards.
I get lucky when I stick to three simple goals, my only goals in life:
A) I want to be happy.
B) I want to eradicate unhappiness in my life.
C) I want every day to be as smooth as possible. No hassles.
That's it. I'm not asking for much. I need simple goals, or else I can't achieve them.
There's been at least ten times in my life that everything seemed so low I felt like I would never achieve the above three things and the world would be better off without me.
Other times I felt like I was stuck at a crossroads and would never figure out which road to take. Each time I bounced back.
When I look back at these times now I realize there was a common thread. Each time there were four things, and only four things, that were always in place in order for me to bounce back.
Now I try to incorporate these four things into a daily practice so I never dip low again.
THE DAILY PRACTICE
1) Physical: Being in shape. Doing some form of exercise.
In 2003, I woke up at 5:00 a.m. every day and from 5:00-6:00 a.m., I played "round the world" on a basketball court overlooking the Hudson River. Every day, except when it rained.
Trains would pass and people at 5:30 a.m. would wave to me out the window. Now, I try to do yoga every day. But it's hard.
All you need to do, minimally, is exercise enough to break a sweat for 10 minutes. So about 20-30 minutes worth of exercise a day. This is not to get "ripped" or "shredded," but just to be healthy.
You can't be happy if you aren't healthy. Also, spending this time helps your mind better deal with its daily anxieties.
If you can breathe easy when your body is in pain, then it's easier to breathe during difficult situations.
Here's other things that are a part of this but a little bit harder:
2) Emotional: If someone is a drag on me, I cut them out. If someone lifts me up, I bring them closer.
Nobody is sacred here. When the plane is going down, put the oxygen mask on your face first. Family, friends, people I love – I always try to be there for them and help.
But I don't get close to anyone bringing me down. This rule can't be broken.
Energy leaks out of you if someone is draining you. And I never owe anyone an explanation. Explaining is draining.
Another important rule: Always be honest. It's fun. Nobody is honest anymore and people are afraid of it.
Try being honest for a day without being hurtful. It's amazing where the boundaries are of how honest one can be. Its much bigger than I thought.
A corollary of this is: I never do anything I don't want to do. Like I NEVER go to weddings.
3) Mental: Every day I write down ideas.
I write down so many ideas that it hurts my head to come up with one more. Then I try to write down five more.
The other day I tried to write 100 alternatives kids can do other than go to college. I wrote down eight, which I wrote about here. I couldn't come up with anymore.
Then the next day I came up with another 40. It definitely stretched my head.
No ideas today? Memorize all the legal two-letter words for Scrabble. Translate the Tao Te Ching into Spanish.
Need ideas for lists of ideas? Come up with 30 separate chapters for an "autobiography." Try to think of 10 businesses you can start from home, and be realistic how you can execute them.
Give me 10 ideas of directions this blog can go in. Think of 20 ways the President can improve the country. List every productive thing you did yesterday (this improves memory also and gives you ideas for today).
The "idea muscle" atrophies within days if you don't use it. Just like walking. If you don't use your legs for a week, they atrophy.
You need to exercise the idea muscle. It takes about 3-6 months to build up once it atrophies. Trust me on this.
4) Spiritual: I feel that most people don't like the word "spiritual." They think it means "God." Or "religion." But it doesn't.
I don't know what it means actually. But I feel like I have a spiritual practice when I do one of the following:
My own experience: I can never achieve my three "simple" goals on a steady basis without doing the above practice on a daily basis. And every time I've hit bottom, or close to a bottom, or I've been at some sort of crossroads, and I started dong the above four items (1991, 1995, 1997, 2002, 2006, 2008) magic would happen.
THE RESULTS
A) Within about one month, I'd notice coincidences start to happen. I'd start to feel lucky. People would smile at me more.
B) Within three months the ideas would really start flowing, to the point where I felt overwhelming urges to execute the ideas.
C) Within six months, good ideas would start flowing, I'd begin executing them, and everyone around me would help me put everything together.
D) Within a year my life was always completely different. 100% upside down from the year before. More money, more luck, more health, etc.
And then I'd get lazy and stop doing the practice. And everything falls apart again. But now I'm trying to do it every day.
It's hard to do all of this every day. Nobody is perfect. I don't know if I'll do all of these things today. But I know when I do it, it works.
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