Here's a way for boomers to share the wealth with their children and grandkids: Cover the cost of preschool and shake off gift taxes to boot.
You already know that college expenses are skyrocketing. High-end preschools can be nearly as bad.
Consider that a year of prekindergarten at a prestigious institution, such as the Grace Church School in Brooklyn, New York, costs $22,100. Meanwhile, a year at the Phillips Brooks School in Menlo Park, California, runs $26,265.
Attorneys say generous grandparents can pay these expenses while saving on gift taxes, although it will take a certain amount of careful planning.
"The numbers are real and they can be significant," said Janis Cowhey, partner at Marcum in New York City.
There are several ways for grandparents to give money without being subject to gift taxes, said Russell J. Fishkind, partner at Saul Ewing LLP in Princeton, New Jersey.
You can make a gift that's under the annual gift tax exclusion of $14,000 per recipient. Here's a benefit for married couples: You and your spouse together can give away up to $28,000.
Alternatively, you can give money away under your lifetime gift tax exemption of $5.49 million. Be aware that any of this exemption you use up during your life will also reduce the amount you can pass on to heirs free of estate taxes. If you are married, you and your spouse each are entitled to your own lifetime gift tax exemption of $5.49 million, for a total of nearly $11 million.
Finally, you can pay directly for the grandchild's tuition or medical expenses, even if these costs exceed the annual gift tax exclusion. In this case, all payments must go straight to the provider of these services.
In the context of estate planning, attorneys are familiar with clients using the latter strategy to help pay for college.
When it comes to preschool, however, the situation can be dicey: It's easy to prove to the IRS that your grandchild's college courses are educational.
But can you say the same about your youngest grandchild's prekindergarten?
"Grandparents can cover these costs as long as this is an educational institution with a regularly enrolled student body," said Fishkind.
"Day-care drop-off doesn't work," he said.
The school must also have a regular faculty in place.
You'll have to take a look at each individual preschool and its curriculum to determine whether it can pass the smell test with the IRS: There's a difference between a school with a structured educational plan and a day care where kids spend the day working on arts and crafts.
"The biggest problem with preschool is that most of the time, but not all of the time, it's considered custodial care, rather than educational," said Cowhey. "It's very facts-specific."
If you don't think your grandchild's preschool qualifies as an "educational organization," but you still want to help out, here's what you can do.
"You can loan to your adult kids at 1 or 2 percent, which is way better than a credit card," said Charlie Douglas, partner and director of wealth planning at Cedar Rowe Partners in Atlanta.
Intrafamily loans aren't for novices. You'll want to contact an estate-planning attorney and draft a formal agreement with your adult child if you're going this route.