So for the past couple of months, I've been asking my 20- and 30-something-year-old patients about what's on their wish list this year. I've gotten a variety of responses — money, an Apple Watch, AirPods, gift cards, essential oils, a plane ticket to Bali.
But there's one surprising item that kept coming up: a planner.
I know, I know. A planner? Really?! Isn't that so ... cliche?
But hear me out: After countless conversations with millennials, I've found that what young people struggle with the most is having to choose from too many options: "I have too many choices. Which should I choose? Too many things to do. What should I prioritize? I'm worried I'll make all the wrong decisions."
Yes, decision fatigue is a real thing, especially in a world that overloads us with information and puts an immense pressure on us to succeed. Trying to do the right thing or attempting to do everything all at once can be stressful, overwhelming and often lead to burnout.
This is where the planner comes in — and I'm not talking about the type that only allows you to jot down birthday reminders and every single task you think you need to complete. A planner is most effective when it's used to create order, direction and clarity about your goals and what you really want to accomplish.
For millennials, it's the perfect tool to help untangle the complex mess of modern life.
In the age of advanced technology, one might think that paper planners would have gone extinct by now. But industry research firm NPD reported that planner sales in the US increased by more than $50 million from 2016 to 2017, from $290.7 million to $344.1 million.
Furthermore, studies have found that the act of writing things down can have a calming effect — the kind of relief you don't get when you're typing things in the notes section of your smartphone (while a text message notification rolls down from the top of the screen).
A millennial patient of mine acknowledged that, as a millennial, he might not seem like the "paper planner" type. But he's actually been using one since grade school. "It's not just about scheduling meetings and appointments. It's about self-improvement," he told me. "If I'm having a bad day, I can open it tomorrow and see it as a chance to start over."
One female in her early-30s uses her planner to practice self-care; she schedules in "me time" several times a month. The sections to write down her personal goals and weekly expenses "are also ways to keep track of my life," she said.
Thoughtfulness and personalization is key, especially if you want to emphasize the fact that you care about the giftee and want to see them succeed.
There are a variety of ways to do this. You can pencil in words of encouragement, like a quote from their favorite author or movie, for example. Last year, a friend of mine gifted planners to his team of millennial employees. In each planner, he scheduled a one-on-one coffee lunch to catch up with the person.
Here are some of my favorite 2020 planners to give to millennials this year:
1. My PA Planner ($39)
I love this planner's daily health and wellness checker, which helps you stay on top of your health and fitness goals.
2. kikki.K B6 Personal Planner ($45)
This stylish planner comes in a vegan-friendly, croc-textured design and has a secure zip closure with internal pockets to keep all your important documents safe.
3. Daily Passion Planner ($35)
This planner includes a Passion Roadmap section for you to define your short- and long-term goals and break them down into smaller, actionable steps.
4. STARTplanner Hustle Weekly Planner ($62)
This one can double as a financial planner, thanks to a comprehensive section where you can break down your expenses (e.g., transportation, insurance, utilities, TV, Internet, food, phone, health, entertainment).
5. Workspacery Refresh Weekly Planner ($39.95)
To make your giftee feel extra special, you can customize this planner with a name, company name, short phrase or fun quote (up to 14 characters per line).
This planner is reusable and made of vegan leather, so you can save money and the planet.
7. MochiThings Planner S ($22.95)
This compact planner comes in a variety of beautiful colors and includes yearly, monthly and weekly planning sections.
8. 2020 Weekly Ponderlily Planner (£35.00)
This beautiful planner is made with sustainable, plastic-free materials and comes in a wide variety of colors.
Tess Brigham is a San Francisco-based psychotherapist and certified life coach. She has more than 10 years of experience in the field and primarily works with millennials and millennial parents.
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