Excerpt: Be Willing Versus Willful

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There is a big difference between being willing versus being willful. When we are willing, life just seems to flow, to work. Willingness feels good. We live in the day – in the moment – when we


are willing. We don’t worry about the future. We trust uncertainty. When we are willful, we want our way. We feel impatient and have expectations.

We want to know now, and we lack trust. Learning how to be willing versus willful can be challenging. It was for me. One of the most important lessons I learned about willingness versus willfulness was that willfulness only got me as far as I could see. It helped me reach my goals. Willingness, on the other hand, helped me go beyond my goals and experience more than I even knew was possible. Th e problem was when I was willful I felt in control. When I was willing I gave up control. The root of being willing is letting go of control and trusting.

Willfulness is limited; willingness is unlimited. It is as simple as that.

How do we become willing? By letting go and trusting the process. Think about if you wanted to get out to sea and were alone. You would need to learn how to swim, so as an entrepreneur, you learned. You soon learned that sometimes, swimming wasn’t enough; you needed to learn new skills such as swimming underwater so the waves wouldn’t break on you. Finally, you were out in the sea, using your swimming skills. It’s not until you are out there that you realize you need a new skill: knowing how to float. Th is is the turning point. Floating is like trusting. It is being willing to be guided. If we don’t learn to float, to become willing, we may panic and drown, or we may swim back. Floating will guide you to the current, and will take you where you need to go. We can still swim when we want to, but now we need to swim and float.

In other words, we need to use our skills and be willing to be guided.

Today I choose to be willing and be guided on my entrepreneurial journey. I believe that simply being willing works and naturally guides me to where I need to be.

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