Millennials Grow Up: Ground Those "Helicopter Parents"

Young businesswoman and family
Young businesswoman and family

Memo to every member of Generation Y who's ever brought a parent along to a job interview or a campus tour: please stop, you're making the rest of us look like jerks! You may think that your overprotective, over-involved parents are just embarrassing you, but they're not.

You're bringing disgrace and disrepute upon an entire generation, 78 million other people.

I was reading an article in BusinessWeek, "The Millennials invade B- Schools," and I cringed inside when I got to the part about "helicopter parents." These are the kind of parents who are involved in every aspect of their children's lives, even when their children are adults in their late 20s.

Most of the people I know who have "helicopter parents" act like they're the victims. They claim they have no control over their controlling parents. That excuse works when you're 16, but not so much when you're 26. I don't blame anybody's parents for this. You love your kids, you want what's best for them, good for you! The problem is adult children not being able to tell their parents, "I can handle this myself."

Frankly, there are a lot of people my age who still need to grow up and learn how to say, "no," to their parents. If you're one of them, don't just do it for yourself so you can live your own life. Do it because you don't want to besmirch our collective generational reputation.

Whenever an angry mother calls a company and screams at some recruiter for not hiring her son or daughter, a story I've heard or read about all too many times, it adds to this particular stigma and makes everyone our age look bad. It's also difficult for anyone to take you seriously if you're in your mid-twenties and you still let mom and dad call the shots.

We're all adults now, or at least we're supposed to be. But nobody will treat you like an adult if you've always got your parents in tow, and have to consult them, or even get their approval, before you make any big decisions. And the more millennials there are with "helicopter parents" the more the rest of us are seen as permanent adolescents.

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