LOS ANGELES, Nov 12, 2010 (BUSINESS WIRE) -- After reading the recent CNN report about Phillip Greaves' e-book being boycotted by thousands of Amazon.com users, Dr. Howard Fradkin, founding board member of MaleSurvivor, wants people to understand the reality of children who have been sexually victimized by pedophiles. Researchers have found that one in six boys are sexually abused by the age of eighteen, with an average age of ten for the first incident. Most boyhood sexual abuse occurs between the ages of two and fifteen at the hands of adults commonly referred to as pedophiles.
"While I have not read the book, I have read Phillip Greaves' comments from his interview with CNN. Here is what I would like people to understand: "True love does not include hurting children, and any time a child is violated sexually, either through penetration, sexual kissing or fondling, it hurts the child. Children do not have the capacity to give informed consent; even if a child perceives some pleasure in the attention received from a pedophile, in my experience it is always harmful to the child, not just in the moment, but for a very long time.
"From my perspective, loving a child commits an adult to protect the child from the demands of adult sexual needs and desires. Pedophiles are unable to see their behavior as harmful to a child which is why they describe it as being a loving way to introduce sexuality to a child.
"It may only be much later in adulthood that children experience the ill effects of the abuse, which often includes problems with emotional and sexual intimacy stemming from an inability to trust, substance abuse, sexual addiction, confusion in sexual orientation, depression, and suicide.
"The imposition of adult sexuality and emotional needs on a child is a developmental catastrophe, even when it is done with the 'best of intentions', the sort of good intentions I suspect Philip Greaves may argue for in his book.
"Most survivors of childhood sexual abuse do not become pedophiles, although it is believed most pedophiles were themselves victims of sexual abuse in childhood. Pedophiles often lack true empathy for the negative effects of their own childhood experiences of abuse and similarly lack true empathy for the negative effects of their sexual behavior with children.
"I would hope that instead of a book being written to help pedophiles engage in their behavior with less shame and guilt, a book should be written to help pedophiles identify the ways in which they mistake their own adult sexual desires toward children as an act of love, rather than as an act of self-gratification." Dr. Fradkin is available to render expert opinion and commentary about the subject of male sexual victimization and recovery for individuals. Contact Rebekah Iliff: Rebekah[at]SmartGirlsConsulting.com or call 310-770-8338.
About Dr. Howard Fradkin Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., LICDC has counseled over 1000 male survivors over the course of his twenty-eight year career as a Psychologist. As co-chairperson of the MaleSurvivor Weekends of Recovery, Howard has directed thirty-four recovery seminars for over 600 men. Dr. Fradkin has also supervised and trained hundreds of professional colleagues on the topic of psychotherapy with male survivors of sexual abuse. He founded Affirmations: A Center for Psychotherapy and Growth, in Columbus, Ohio in 1984. Recent media credits include: Gayle King XM Radio show, Columbus Dispatch, WBNS-TV in Columbus, and appearing as an expert on the Oprah Winfrey Show on November 5th, 2010 and November 12, 2010, alongside Tyler Perry and 200 brave men to lift the veil of shame surrounding male sexual abuse.
About MaleSurvivor MaleSurvior (http://www.MaleSurvivor.org) is not-for-profit organization committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism. Founded in 1994, the organization has reached over 50 million individuals whose lives have been forever impacted by sexual abuse.
SOURCE: MaleSurvivor CONTACT: SGC Rebekah Iliff, Principal Rebekah@SmartGirlsConsulting.com 310-770-8338 Copyright Business Wire 2010 -0- KEYWORD: United States
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