8. My lawyer will feret out all my spouse's hidden monies in the financial discovery process
The unhappy truth is that the husband who plans to hide money from his soon-to-be ex-wife, has also, long ago, developed a scam to hide his money from a much sterner, oppressive and competent force – the IRS. I tell clients that the best a lawyer can do is to protect her against getting raped. But they should reconcile themselves to the fact that the lawyer probably could not protect her from her spouse stealing a kiss.
9. At the end of a case, all the inequities will be adjusted at trial
During the course of a case which, after spread out over many months or more, one or the other party may have overpaid or underpaid the other. The usual mantra is: “Don’t worry, when we settle the case, we will make adjustments.” When a case is settled rather than being tried, as it happens in 99% of cases, these interim inequities fall between the cracks.
10. Save it for the Saturday night dance
During a case, evidence and things of all nature that are damaging to a spouse may fall into the hands of the other spouse. Many lawyers advise their clients to hold it back and spring it at trial. But, most of the time there is no Saturday night dance, meaning the trial is never held because the parties have settled. Then the damaging material, which has been held back, is worthless and the mileage that could have been obtained from it has been wasted.
Raoul Lionel Felder is perhaps America's best known divorce and family lawyer representing in a legal trajectory of more than forty years representing both ordinary citizens and celebrities in over a thousand cases. He has written seven books and has published numerous articles related to matrimonial law, politics and social issues and has been a television and radio spokesperson, host and moderator.