When a security agent at the Toronto airport recently tried to stop us, we walked right past him. He had, by then, lost his power.
Make sure that doesn't happen to you. Power is the ability to influence others. Where does yours come from?
1) Your position: Every job comes with some authority.
The security agent, for example, was authorized to check documents, then send you to the inspection line. That day, there were two lines, 50 yards apart. He could send you right or left.
How much of your power is based on your position? If it's all positional, you're in trouble.
Let's say you're the president of the U.S. Powerful job? Well,occasionally. But most days, the president is blocked, thwarted or abused by anyone and everyone.
"Hell," said Harry Truman, is "to be president."
2) Your expertise: Your power may be based on what you know.
The Toronto agent sent me, and almost everyone, to the line on the right. That line was long; it appeared to contain the entire population of Canada. The other line was the size of the Yukon, about six people.
"I wonder why he sent us here," I said to the young Canadian man behind me.
"He's completely out of it, eh," the Canadian said.
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