A small but growing group of dads are making the same decisions moms have been making for years: Turning down a promotion, saying no to a job offer or even changing jobs because they want more time with their kids.
Experts say these kinds of dads are still a minority, but they signal a major shift in how men view their roles at home and at work.
"They weren't stuck on a certain view of masculinity that was all about being a breadwinner. They were redefining their roles and they were really feeling good about it," said Gayle Kaufman, a sociology professor at Davidson College, who interviewed dads who had made those trade-offs for her new book "Superdads: How Fathers Balance Work and Family in the 21st Century."
Corey Fontenot, 35, doesn't lament his decision to give up a more lucrative sales job in exchange for a less stressful operations job soon after his first child was born with health problems and terrible colic.
"I don't regret it because it's a family choice," he said. "They come first and that's all I can say. They're what matters."
Fontenot, who lives in Round Rock, Texas, was working irregular hours to meet intense sales targets for a large technology company when his son was born four years ago. He was totally unprepared for how tough it would be to juggle everything.
"You have to keep a paycheck coming in, but when it's a question of your wife's sanity for one thing (and) your children's health for another, there's really no question of where you should be, whether you should be at home or at work," he said.
The switch to operations gave him a regular schedule and the option to work from home sometimes. That flexibility came in handy again when his daughter, now 1, also was born with health problems.
Both kids are now doing well, but Fontenot still values his flexible schedule because it allows him to drop off and pick up the kids from day care, and be available when a kid is sick or another emergency comes up. His wife, who works in education, has a hefty commute that leaves her with less flexibility during the day.
Still, there are trade-offs. Fontenot said money has occasionally been tight, and he worries that any move up the ladder would mean giving up some of the flexibility.
"I know full well that the next level is not going to leave me with as much freedom as I have now," he said.
'Time for me to pull my weight'
Josh Benoit, who turns 39 on Father's Day, didn't realize what he was missing out on at home until he was unexpectedly laid off from his job in the radio industry.
He suddenly found himself in the role of stay-at-home dad to his now 3- and 7-year-old boys: Helping his wife out with the morning routine, going on field trips, taking kids to appointments and hitting baseballs in the afternoon with his older son.
Benoit, who lives in Houston, was out of work from December of 2012 until November of 2013, when he took a part-time job in the radio industry. But after all the time with the kids, he said he realized that he didn't want to go back full time into a field where he wouldn't have the freedom to do things like drop his kids off at school in the morning.
"I just wasn't willing to do it anymore," he said. "It was time for me to pull my weight."
A few months ago, Benoit took a more family friendly job in marketing. He's continued to do a little bit of radio, and he conceded it's been hard to give up the radio career he has loved so much. The new job also required some financial sacrifice, but he said it's been worth it.
"It's not been quite lateral as far as pay goes, but then again I make up for it in other areas," he said.