Many people enter negotiations with the goal of securing a "yes," but the FBI's former lead international hostage negotiator says eliciting a "no" can be just as powerful — if not more.
"'Yes' is a horrible word. It scares people. They wonder what they've committed themselves to. They become nervous. They become distracted, and when they're distracted, they're not listening to you," Christopher Voss told CNBC's "Squawk Box" on Tuesday.
On the other hand, allowing people to say "no" makes them feel relaxed and protected, he said. In such a state, they tend to better focus on your message, he added.
"This is getting a 'no' that actually moves you forward," he said. "You want an agreement. An agreement is not necessarily through 'yes,' because again, we're so used to being trapped by 'yes.'"