But not long later, I looked online and there, before me, were some of the very ideas we had shared with them as part of our deal. I was stunned – beyond sad and, yes, even mad. For my own protection, I took screenshots of what I saw.
I didn't tell the story to many, except to one particular CEO, who asked why I wouldn't take them to task and perhaps sue them? I figured it wasn't worth it, unless I was going to remain in that very business (or wanted to take on their poor ethics).
The effort would take up enormous time and energy – depleting my bandwidth -- and for who knows how long? And, what could we really gain? In the end, we quickly decided it wasn't worth the time. Much better to use my bandwidth on new priorities – and the ones I still had to tend to, like helping others build financial security.
It was similar to advice I had given my mother when she worried for years why her niece wasn't inviting her to family gatherings: I told her to either ask directly or let it go. "Life is short," I said. "It's their loss. Time to move on."
She fretted a good deal. In the end, about two years later, the niece apologized after realizing that her own perceptions were flawed.
Carrying baggage or wasting time on things we can't fix impacts us in so many ways, financially and emotionally. It can impinge on our productivity and sound decision making - so needed in today's rapid-fire world. It can impact our sleep, even our relationships, and of course, our happiness.