Not too long ago, a co-worker asked to meet me about something that sounded very important.
"I need some help and thought you'd be the right person to talk to."
And because that was incredibly flattering, I agreed to the meeting without much thought. But within the first few minutes of our conversation, I found out that there was no agenda and this was nothing more than a casual chat.
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This made me want to rip my hair out for two reasons. For starters, I was under the impression that my co-worker had some specific questions for me. And even worse, the calendar invite was set for an entire hour — which made me feel as if this wasn't just a waste of my time, but a colossal one.
But because I hate confrontation, I bit my tongue in the moment and sat there accomplishing nothing for an hour. But that night over dinner, as I vented to my wife, she reminded me of one of the best communication lessons we learned way back when we started dating.
You can speak up when you're frustrated or annoyed without creating conflict by simply avoiding "you" statements.