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These 4 behaviors will raise 'red flags' on a first date, according to Tinder and Hinge users. Here's how to avoid them

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If you've been swiping on the dating apps recently, you've probably noticed that the bios of your potential matches are littered with the red flag emoji – this year it was one of the most frequently used emoji in Tinder bios, according to the app's data. 

Some red flags are pretty specific to the person (think: "don't love dogs!") but others are commonly held.

And all of them can thwart your attempt at a long-term partnership — something many singles expressed wanting this year — before it even begins.

In 2022, 50% of singles said they would've been happier over the last year if they'd been in a relationship. In 2021, 35% had the same response. 

Here are four red flags that might cost you a potential match, according to dating app data.

Getting drunk on a first date

Three-in-four singles don't want to get drinks on a first date, according to Hinge's data.

Of those surveyed, 45% said they prefer sober dates because they are prioritizing their mental health and 55% said it helps them get to know the other person better.

What should you do instead? 

Well, 17% of daters on the app would rather meet for coffee. About 11% would rather see a show or go to a museum and 14% would rather go for a walk.

Being 'too into' Instagram 

Those who are "too into" Instagram or Snapchat come off as self absorbed, according to Hinge users.

That's why 74% of said don't want to date someone who is constantly using social networking apps. 

While on a date, it's probably best to keep the phone face down. 

Not knowing about politics or social issues 

Being in the know about social and political issues is a huge plus for daters, according to Tinder data. 

A whopping 75% of singles were looking for a match who respected or were invested in social issues. 

And almost half, 47%, of singles said that finding out the person they are dating is a non-voter is a "deal breaker." 

This doesn't mean your views have to totally align with those of a potential partner. Only 24% of users said they want to date someone who thinks exactly as they do and 46% said they would date someone who has different political views. 

Bringing up trauma 

A vast majority, 93%, of Hinge users prefer to date someone who is emotionally vulnerable, according to the app's data. They care more about this than height or income. 

But, there is a right way to open up and a wrong way. 

The right way is to tell stories that demonstrate your goals and values. Perhaps after a few dates you can get into relationships history, too.

The wrong way is to bring up deep-rooted trauma too early. 

Be authentic, but don't overshare. 

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